The above is meant to be sarcastic.
For reasons I don't know my brother didn't come to the viewing or mom's funeral.
I am totally PO'd at him. I don't care what reason he can come up with. I feel hate right now. And though I know it isn't Christian of me to say this........I hope this haunts him and hurts him for the rest of his life. This would have broken mom's heart. How could he be so cold and heartless?
I guess sometime God will help me to forgive my brother. But it will take a very long time. Probably until I die.
Kathy
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I do hope you can let go of the anger. I know you've been through a lot of pain with loosing your Mom and this just adds to the pain. I believe that sooner or later everyone will get their just rewards. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
'On Ya' - ma
Kathy know this is hard--and certainly not very understandable. But take a little comfort in the fact that he DID come when she was alive, and she could be happy and enjoy his visit. For you, know it would have felt better to have other family present, but for both your brother and your Mom, the visit while she was alive probably meant much more to both of them. He did surprise you, and came when you called for his help. You enabled him to spend quality time with her, when she knew it, and could enjoy it. Hope this thought will lighten your anger just a tad. (((hugs))), LaVern
Oh dear Kathy...You know your brother better than we do so you might well know if there was some "feelings" good or bad between him and your dear Mother..however the person to be sorry about is your BROTHER I know it is ever so hard but actually he is the one who has missed out and he will be the one who is hurting as well for whatever reason and he will be the one who will probably never actually forgive himself whatever he might say in public. Take care good friend You are in my thought and many prayers over here in sunny warm Wiltshire Love Sybilxx
Maybe your brother can't handle the death of your mom yet? Maybe he wasn't ready to say goodbye? Sending you hugs!
Missie
It's easy to see why you feel hurt and mad over this. But try to remember this is your brother's issue, not yours. If you hold on to these feelings they'll only end up hurting you. - Barbara
Kathy, your feelings are valid. I agree with Barbara, however. Be willing to be willing to forgive and let go. You don't have to like what he did, but bitterness is a deep well and painful. Love and prayers, Penny http://journals.aol.com/firestormkids04/FromHeretoThere
http://journals.aol.com/firestormkids04/TimeforaLittlePoetry
Grief affects everybody differently. Let this go and concentrate on your own healing. That's my advice anyway.
Russ
Nobody knows, except your brother, why he didn't come to the viewing or funeral. This happened in our family too, and I discovered, in the lives of other people as well. I can understand your hurt and anger, but hope that with time, it passes. I'm glad you and your father are going to counseling. It really does help.
God bless you, my friend.
Barb- http://journals.aol.com/barbpinion/HEYLETSTALK
My brother feared death so much that he couldn't come to either of my parent's funerals or wakes. I understood that and so did my other brother.
Maybe one day, when you find out why, you may be able to forgive.
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