The last time I spoke to my brother was when I called him to tell him that mom had died. I asked him to call his 2 daughters that no longer live at home and tell them. He said ok.
I got a call from my niece N last week asking about mom. I started crying and ask didn't her dad call her? No, he hadn't. I felt so bad. I told her about mom and she said "I don't know what to say" I said that I was so sorry and I should have called her myself.
My dad spoke briefly to my brother on the day we buried mom. He said he wasn't coming to the funeral.
I called my brother a week ago Friday. I got his voice mail so I left a message asking him to call me or dad.
So far neither I nor dad has heard from him.
So now what?
Maybe I made him mad. A day or so after the funeral I mailed him a copy of the funeral program thingy the funeral home prints out.
Dad says that since mom is no longer here that we won't hear from him again. I have always felt that would be true but I guess I had hoped it wouldn't be so. Mom so wanted to believe that my brother and would be close. She thought right before she died that he was changing and would be here for me. Guess she was wrong.
Kathy
On June 3rd it will have been a month since mom passed.
Tags: brother, niece, moms funeral, phone call,
9 comments:
I feel sorry for you and for your father. At times like this, family needs to stick together. Apparently your brother is having a difficult time, however, that's not an excuse for him.
Missie
I don't know what to say. That had to be a jarring thing to hear over the phone. I wish you peace.
Russ
It really is so sad when families break up but it does seem to happen often when the "king pin" in the family dies. It dosn't have to even be a Mum or Dad that dies for this to happen. One of our Aunts died a few years ago and she was the "king pin" in our family..although we didn't quite realise that at the time..but she kept us all together with snippets of news of cousins, other family members, friends of the family etc. and sinse she died we have all sort of drifted apart...Still praying that your brother will return to the fold one day...and if not...well he has to answer for his won actions at the end of the day..so long as you keep the door open. Love Sybil xx
Kathy, I really do feel your pain. After my father died, my brother just stopped bothering with my mother and myself. He did, for a few years, stay in touch with my sister.
Family break ups are so hard ... when a family member chooses to walk away and not bother any longer, it feels like another death.
Here for you if you want to e-mail. Keeping you in thought and prayer.
So sorry to hear that Kathy. I hope things get sorted out for you. Love Pam xx
i am so sorry kathy, not reading many journals lately so catching up. shocked at your brother and i feel for you. in my thoughts mort xxx
I wanted to let you know that I was thinking about you today and was wondering how you're doing. I'm sorry to see that this has developed, but I'll continue to hope that he comes around and that things work out for the family. You're dealing with a lot right now.
Please take care,
Jimmy
Kathy--I am so sorry I have been gone for so long....my heart just truly cries for you - I am at a loss for words...I am so sorry about your mom....I wish I was near by just to hug you or to listen to you......I am here if you ever need anything!!
I am sorry about your brother....it is sad about him...one day it will come back to bite him in the butt....
meantime...please know that my heart, prayers, and thoughts are there for you and your dad.....take care
-Ellie
It is a shame. Your brother doesn't know what he is missing. Prayers for both of you. = Barbara
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