Ok, so I don't know my neighbors. Which for the most part is ok by me. I do know a couple of people on the street but we aren't what you would call friends. More like we wave and say hi when we see each other out. And always the "if you need something let me know" type deal.
Well a few weeks ago my neigbhor should could have used me and I wasn't there -- not because I didn't want to be but because I didn't know.
I noticed that I had missed seeing Jim's car but thought he was working some odd hours or that I just kept missing him. No major deal.
Then I saw a dog lot go up in their front yard. Jim and Carol have 4 dogs -- all large dogs -- that they usually keep inside or will take turns tying the dogs out in the yard.
Something I FINALLY notice just isn't right. I see Carol out chasing down a dog that had gotten lose so I yell and her and we talk.
Three weeks ago Jim was working (delivering pizza's) and got hit head on by a drunk driver (drunk driver is doing fine by the way). Jim has just gotten out of the hospital most of the time was spent in ICU. He has had blood clot problems, a broken arm, one of his legs is messed up really bad (has one of those "halo" type things on it ) and if I remember right Carol said he broke 11 ribs I feel so bad for Jim, and Carol too. I didn't ask if she was working but I don't think so I think she is having to take care of Jim 24/7. ( Lousy neighbor I should have asked! ) I don't know how they will manage with neither working.
I do plan on offering to run errands for her if I can. And make sure they have my phone number.
I am really upset that I didn't know before now and am really PO'D at the 22 year old drunk driver that hit Jim. He guy had a DUI from before, this time he was drinking, had perscription drungs, and weed in his car!!!!! Jim was just out trying to make an honest buck and now is still bascially fighting for his life. Even when everything heals (and that will take a long time) he won't ever be the same, you know he won't.
Other than feeling like a total loser of a neighbor I am doing ok. The longer I am off some sleep meds the better I feel. New sleep meds on board and I'm doing pretty good. Still waiting on the blood tests for my allergy but I am almost postitive it's the cats (most likely Sophie). Next week I go go back to my shrink and to my medical doctor. Am going to ask the medical doctor to send me to another ENT seeing as I will NOT be going back to the one I just saw.
Even if I keep my tonsils I feel something should have been done other than ask about my snoring.
I really am trying to get back on line more and to visit journals. You usused to have to drag me kicking and screaming off line but now it seems like it takes a herd of horses to get me in here. I don't know what the problem is. Maybe it is still lack of motivation (which I have talked to shrink about).
Hang in there. Tell someone you love them and be sure you give them a hug each time you get in a car. You just never know. (Oh, this past week a local news anchor killed someone while he was out driving drunk-----too many people driving drunk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)
Kathy
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You'll find ways to help your neighbors, just keep checking on them. And I hope you continue to feel better and better. - Barbara
Dont feel so bad about not hanging with the nieghbors. My hubby would be kinda mad if I ever be-friended another one. They always end up mad or bitter about something. I jsut wave and smile and do my own thing.
Wonder why there are so many drunk drivers in this day and age? i thought the millenium was less smoking and drinking.
http://journals.aol.com/mrsm711/LatteDah/ Tracy
They changed the laws where I live. One DUI and you lose your license for a long time.
You shouldn't feel bad. You didn't know. You'll help them out now.
Angela
Maybe helping your neighbors out will also help you. I seldom have time to think about my own problems when I'm helping people with much worse problems. I'm glad you got back online for a bit.
Russ
what can I say Kathy {{{{{{{{{{{{{}}}}}}}}}}
My heart goes out to your neighbors...people drinking and driving makes me sick....the laws did not fit the crime as far as DUI's are concerned...sad but true.
I will keep your neighbors in my thoughts and prayers...
As far as needing a herd of horses to get you online...I have been there more times then not...I know the feeling...if you find a solution let me know...I miss hanging out with my puter and all.
Take care girlfriend-
Ellie
oh man I know you will be a big help. maybe you can help wtih the dogs. that was sweet of you to ofer when you found out. that poor man I wll keep him in prayers
I hope your neighbor has a good recovery, and I hope they lock up the guy who hit him!
Lori
http://journals.aol.com/helmswondermom/DustyPages
don't blame yourself. If you are like me you don't expect anything bad to happen to neighbors so you don't conciously look for anything out of the normal to be going on. You are a good neighbor because you did ask how they were doing. Your not a realative or anything. No one likes a nosey neighbor either. I am proud of you offering to help when you did find out. Give yourself a break kid.
I understand about the neighbor thing. I know them, see them, wave at them and even speak from time to time. But I don't know what's really going on with them. It's just the way it is. It's not necessarily a good thing or a bad thing.
So don't beat yourself up. :-)
Deb
Hi hon. No alerts which is why I've not commented. I thought you'd just stopped writing for a bit. I read so many journals it takes a long time to check them all out when alerts stop working. But here I am, finally!
I'm sure you're a wonderful neighbor, hon. If you'd known there was a need I know you'd have helped. You are, now that you know. THAT ought to ease your conscience a little. I"ll be back.
Hugs, love & prayers,
Barb- http://journals.aol.com/barbpinion/HEYLETSTALK
What a shame for your neighbors. Have a good night.
Missie
Always remember that it's not the things we do wrong that count, it's how we make up for them. I think you're a good neighbor...hey, you didn't know! Now you do. I'm sure you'll step up :)
Jimmy
I am sorry about your neighbor, and certainly agree that too many people-of all ages and walks of life-are driving drunk. I suspect you'll find a way to be a etter neighbor from now on. Good for you to ask for a new ENT! Life is too short to have poor doctors. Margo
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