Hello everyone. Hope you are doing ok. No lasting hang-overs or blisters on the feet from too much dancing at the J-land celebration I hope.
The cow to the left here, (or is it a bull?) is here because......no reason. I saw the photo, liked it, the site said I could grab it so I did.
He looks kind of mean huh? He? Guess I have decided "it" is a bull. He looks like he can see that hamburger you have you in your hands there. You better put the ground beef away........
Swiped the above graphic from Jason (click on the money to go to his journal). Actually I asked politely before I ran off with it.
I know everyone is thinking AOL and money don't mix so well. But you might be wrong. I was trying to balance my checkbook today and found a couple "odd" things on my statement.
Turns out some money had been deposited into my account. Huh? Seems I did a couple of those "opinion polls" and they actually paid me for them! Yep. I got $5 for one and $3 for another one! Cool.
Ok, it might not actually BE AOL money, but the "opinion poll" place says they will credit your AOL account so to me that is as good as if it was AOL money!
Now there are some things I don't understand about men. Or maybe it isn't all men, maybe it is just my dad. When my parents got married my mom didn't know how to cook, but my dad did and he taught her how.
Whenever we had pets my dad was always the one that ending up getting their meds into them. No problem, he would pick them up grab open their mouth and shove the meds right in.
But something has happened to my dad. Something really weird. It happed at almost the exact second mom fell and fractured her hip.
Dad no longer knows how to cook. Can't even open a can! It is really weird I tell ya. Sara - their cat -- is sick and needs liquid meds twice a day. Suddenly dad doesn't know how to pick up a cat without being afraid of getting bit or something. He has become incapable of putting liquid med into Sara's mouth. He has done it before. I know he has.
But when mom fractured her hip and couldn't cook or help hold Sara all the sudden dad can't do anything! Well, he can and does cook breakfast (easiest meal of the day to fix). So I go and cook lunch for them and put stuff in the fridge that just has to be re-heated for a light supper. But he had trouble finding things in the fridge so I got tape and put numbers on everything. Made a list and gave it to mom. Now she tells him what number to get out of the fridge to microwave for supper.
I go twice a day, find Sara (the cat incase you aren't following), pick her up, wrap her in a towel, get her to open wide and shoot the meds right into that little mouth of hers. Takes all of about 2 minutes for the whole thing? She hasn't bit me or scratched me. No one helps hold her. It's a one woman job. No biggie.
So here is my question. When mom fractured her hip, what happened to dad's brain and ablities to take care of things? Will he know how to cook and give the cat meds when the doctor says mom can go back to doing all those things? Have you ever seen this happen before ladies?
12 comments:
Sometimes men are lost when their life-long partners are incapacitated or gone. When you Mom gets better, my bet is that your dad will, too. In a way, it's a very sweet thing. In a more practical view, it can be a pain in the you know what. Thank goodness you are there for the both of them during this trying time in thier lives.
Sam
Your dad will, more than likely, get better as your mom does the same. It's a strange phenomenon, but it's real.
everytime I do opinion poll they ask a few questions and say thank you for your time we dont need you for this one lol
And here I thought I was going to find a recipe for Pizza Fries, LOL. There is a name for your dads problem, and that is... LOVE. Your dad will get better as soon as your mom gets better. This happens all the time with couples that have been married forever. They in fact are "one" so if half of that "one" is ill, the other half also gets sick. This is VERY real, which is why so many older people die shortly after their spouse passes away because they can't be without the other. I think the numbered items in the fridge is a great idea. I'm glad Sara didn't bite you or anything. :)
~ Mandy ~
As other readers here suggest your Dad is part of a pair ,they rely on each other to fuction .,.,.,.,Jan xx
I think your Dad is lost without his wife. I saw that happen to my MIL when my FIL was hospitalised. She didn`t know what to do with herself until he was safely home again.
Sandra xxxx
Mooo I think it is Selective Order. He choose not too because it means that he is the care giver and not taker anymore. Men can not deal with that. Go figure....
Brenda
I have done those opinion polls to and get credited. I love that. I'm so sorry about your mom and I'm also sorry about your dad. I don't know the reason, but I sure hope he's ok.
I agree....that your dad needs you mom....they are one. That kind of happened with me and my husband, when I lost all of my abilities and things I did everyday, he became very different...hard to explain, but others noticed it as well. I do feel that it's love...! :o)
Lisa
I do those survey things as well, and I got a few credits myself. I had forgot that I did them and when my checkbook wasn't matching up, I was thinking a check or something never went through ... then I saw the credits. Hey I'll keep doing them so aol will pay me, lol.
Hugs,
Christina
I agree with Jan...
Astra!
I like your subject. Maybe I'll start doing that when I can't think of anything to put there. You know, I think your Dad's inability to function as he normally does is probably real and associated to your mom's incapacitation. Be patient. I'm sure he'll come out of it when she's back on her feet. I can remember when my mom had surgery, my dad spent a lot of time just standing around with his hands in his pockets and a bewildered look on his face.
Lori
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