God?.....God???

HEY GOD ARE YOU UP THERE?  I know that you are only supposed to give me what I can handle but I think you are going too far this go 'round.

Yesterday morning my dad called and said he was sick, too sick to look after mom.  So I hurry over there.  Dad is really sick and in pain.  I asked him if he should go to the doctor.  No I'm too sick to go. So I called the doctor and talked to the nurse who talked to another nurse and they told me to call 911.

So I call and the fire department comes (they always come to calls because they can get there faster than the ambulance) then the other paramedics show up.  Off dad goes to the hospital.

Hours later dad calls saying they are admitting him and are running all sorts of tests.

So I am having to take care of mom all by myself.  No biggie right?  Wrong.  The later in the day it gets the worse she gets.  The weaker she gets.  She was NOT going to use a bed side potty chair.  I about killed myself getting her to the bathroom and back.  She seemed to go every hour or so.  Finally I said that's it you have got to use the potty chair.

Today I told her that we were going to have to use the Hospice respite care for a few days.  This means her going to Hospice for 5 days while I rest, hopefully get dad home from the hospital, AND I would get a Hospice CNA to teach me how to better handle mom in and out of the bed so I wouldn't hurt myself or her.

Mom didn't want that.  She tried thinking of everyone in the world that might could come stay with her at night.  Finally she said to call my brother.  I'm all like he ain't coming to help take care of you.  But I called him and she talked to him.  I told him that if he couldn't come and stay 24/7 for a few days not to come.

Low and behold my brother showed up with his suitcases.  I would never have believed it if I wasn't there to see it.  I left them alone to run some errands.  He had to help mom with the potty chair.  Guess it went ok.  Then when I got back and was on the phone to someone mom tried to get out of bed.  Well bro you gotta handle this one 'cause I'm on the phone.  I could tell it wasn't going so good.  Mom want up and wanted to go to the other end of the house to find some pj's.  Bro said he would go get them.  Mom said he didn't know what she wanted.  I got her calmed down and brought several pairs of pj's for her to chose from.  Crisis averted.

Then my brother made a HUGE mistake.  He pulled the bed rail up.  Mom TOTALLY went off on him.  She doesn't want it up.  She sat up and looked at him and told him she would get out of that bed.  No rails for her!

I was kind of laughing to myself because I knew this would happen and wondered what Bro would do to handle it.  He finally gave in and let the rail down.  But told her it would go up tonight when he was sleeping.

Yeah right.  If he gets any sleep tonight it will surprise me.  Either that or he won't be doing his job.  Mom is up and down all night wanting this that or who knows what.  She will get out of bed and forget what she wanted and lay back down.

So, God you up there?  You honestly think Bro is going to be able to hang in there?  Did you hear mom tell me that she wanted me to stay tonight and not my dear brother?

PS......Dad will be in the hospital a few more days.  He has (I can't spell it and too lazy to look it up, so here is how you sound it out) diver - tic- u - lie - tus.  He also has a kidney infection, his potassium was way too high and could have started to effect his heart if not caught in time.  He still has dizzy spells don't know where they are coming from.

Kathy