Update

Thanks everyone for your thoughts and prayers.  Here is an update on what is going on now.

It appears that my Aunt E had a stroke.  Also appears that at some point in time she had had 2 more before this one.

She seems to be doing better.  The hospital won't discharge her until she has a "safe" place to go.  In other words she can't go back to living by herself.

Nothing can be done until Monday so we have this weekend to do a lot of thinking and planning.  Hopefully this is what will happen:  monday we get Aunt E into a skilled nursing facility.  She will stay there until we get through some (yeah, some) red tape with Medicad.

Medicad.  If any of you have had to deal with that my heart goes out to you.  Monday morning I will have to get up really early to go wait in line to apply for Medicad for my aunt.  They will -- of course -- turn me down until I can sell Aunt E's house.  I don't know how much Aunt E makes or has in her savings account.  I pray that she makes under the limit and has no savings to speak of.

Then after we get that done we have to find an assisted living place or something along those lines.

The biggest problem is her house.  If you could see me rolling my eyes right now you would know how I feel.

Oh, gotta go tomorrow to the hosptial to see about getting her power of attonery.  IF the notary at the hosptial thinks my aunt is capable of understanding what she is signing.  If not, well then the fun begins.  I will have to get a lawyer and go to court to prove she can't be responsible for herself and I should be appointed her guardian.

Me.  Me.  Why me?  My mom (Aunt E's younger sister and only family living) isn't well enough to do the task.  My dad.  Well that is almost laughable.  I think he would if he thought he could handle all the paper work, etc.....But everyone concerned (including aunt) thinks I am the best person for it.  Me.  I always knew that there would come a time when I would be making decisions for my parents when they reached a certain point.  I didn't think I would be doing it for someone else.

And for me it gets scarier.  What if she has another really bad stroke.  What if I have to make medical decisions that impact her life?  I don't want to have to do that.  I know that I won't have to do that with my parents or them for me as we have all made a living will.  If my aunt has one I don't know anything about it.  I will go to her house and see if I can find any legal looking papers.

Oh, one more thing.  I am not sure how many days her insurance will pay for the skilled nursing so we will have to act fast on the Medicad.  No time to stop, step back, take a deep breath.  Just go until it is done and then stop and pray that you did all the right things.

I'm scared.  I want to do everything right.  I want to pick the best place for my aunt to be living.  I want to be able to get through all the Medicad crap and selling off her things.

My pastor leaves for vacation tomorrow.  I could kill him for leaving.  LOL  He was a lot of help last night calling and keeping my mom calmed down while things were happening.

Keep praying.