I'm back! Updates:
My aunt is never going to be the way she was.
She didn't reconize mom (her sister) when she was in the hospital and still doesn't. My parents went to visit today and Aunt E was just as confused, if not more so, as when she was in the hospital. It is sad. But oddly enough my aunt seems ok with the way things are. At least in front of us. The nurses must have had a time with her because they had her tied into a wheelchair. My aunt even said "I must be giving them a hard time because I'm tied in."
I do know that they won't let her stay in bed and I am guessing that she won't stay in the wheelchair as she probably can walk some but could fall. I like the fact that they make her get out of her room. They have several "living rooms" with those big screen tvs.
I went by Aunt E's house again today. So much to do there. It is clear that she will never be going back there so what to do with a house full of stuff? And it is rather sad. It (when I am at her house) almost feels like she has died and I am getting rid of her life. I haven't actually gotten rid of anything yet. I am still cleaning and looking for papers (can't find where she had home owners insurance, surely she has it. Even though the house is paid for.)
On to other things........
Christmas is coming up. So hard to believe that the year is almost over.
What I had wanted to do with all my e-friends and what will come to pass is 2 totally different things.
I have been (and continue) to be distracted so I can't do my part in what I wanted. My idea was to find a couple on-line catalogs and we all go virtual shopping. Yep. I wanted to see what we would get each other. How well we know each other. And the "kicker" was you had to come up with 2 presents per person. One "regular priced" and one from some really high end catalog.
I just don't have the time to find just the right catalogs or to match people up (kind of like a secret santa). So if any of you have the time and want to run with my idea (or even re-work it somehow) that is fine with me. Just let me know ok?
6 comments:
Kathy, I just caught up on reading your journal. I am so sorry to hear about your aunt and what you are experiencing right now. It is a sad thing but it's also a great thing you do for her and yourself. I've been where you're at and I don't ever regret going there. You are in my prayers, dear heart...gloria
So sad about your aunt. Yes finding things and clearing out is so hard and it does feel as if they are gone or not there. Lori
I feel so sad for your aunt, and sadder for you. You have so many things to take care of. I'm glad you know the Lord is there for you. Wish I had the mindset you have, If I did I'd follow through on your idea. It sounds like a lot of fun. Hugs. Keeping all of you in prayer. *Barb*
I am assuming the tie is around her waist? Make sure she is getting physical therphy. Also she if you can get her up walking. Talk to the doctor. There are laws about the restraining of patients now. Sometimes they do it just so they dont have to do anything with the patient. I have seen them left out in the hall with poopey drawers because the staff was too busy to take them to bathroom or clean them up. And that was in high dollar place too!
Kathy~
If you have time for the virtual catalog thing I like Circuit City, is that what you mean? I don't know how you might have the time but then it would be a nice break from everything. Love the Cats 5th Ave. graphic! LOL! We are so blessed to have are senior relatives still with us no matter what shape they are in! You are doing a fantastic job of caring for your Aunt, dear heart. Suzy Colorado
Hi Kathy, have been thinking of you and wondering how things are going with your Aunt. It does sound like a lot to deal with, both her condition and her house... just hope you are taking care of yourself in the process.
One thought: houses and posessions contain so much psychic energy, that if you can honor your Aunt's life in some way, like keep a nice photo of her out or some fresh flowers, as you deal with her posessions, it may seem a little less sad. hugs to you, Albert ps: I'm not much of a shopper, real or virtual!
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