I swore this was one of those things to keep my mouth shut about. But as you can see keeping my mouth shut is hard for me at times.
I am sorry if I offend anyone. I surely do not mean to.
I have been thinking about the "cliqic" (i can't even spell it) thing that others are writing about. And yes, I have been thinking about some comments that I have left at those journals.
And the more I think, the more I think.....
Here is what I think--for me, I am just talking for me. I believe that people in real life travel in different circle of friends. And I believe this is true in almost all areas of our life, work, home, church, school.... Even though we sometimes travel in different groups they are not all clicks (there I can spell that).
Clicks here in journal land. At first I was going, yeah we got those. But now I am wondering if it is my own paranoia. Some journals I just don't feel comfortable at. Has that person done anything to offend me? No, maybe it is because for some strange reason I feel left out? Maybe, and I know THAT MAKES NO SENCE! But of course the way we feel from time to time doesn't have to be rational does it?
No one has ever said anything to make me feel unwelcome anywhere. (Though at times I felt unwelcome, why? heck I don't know, maybe that paranioa thing kicking in from time to time.) Actually I have had people offer to help me with problems that I have never been to their journal before (didn't know it was out there). So I can't complain about that. Maybe it is not feeling unwelcome, but more of a "what the heck am I doing here" they seem so much smarter than me, they write better than I can ever hope to, etc.....
So, the more I think, and the more I think....maybe it has to do with some journals being more "popular". Didn't the popular kids at school just make ya ill? Maybe that is it. Maybe not.
I don't know if I have explained myself very well. I hope that I did enough for you to sorta understand what I am trying to say.
2 comments:
See, my problem with using something like the word clique is that it's whole meaning is based around the word "exclusive." And that is just not the case as far as anything I've seen in J-Land other than with one of the bloggers who originally posted the question. Yes, there are friends, but there's a difference between a group of friends and a clique. Everyone has their own strengths & weaknesses. That's just life. But just because someone may do something better than you do doesn't make you any less worthy or valuable as a person or a member of a community. And for those of us who are good firends & go out of our way to try & make others feel welcome, the word clique is the biggest insult anyone can throw at us. To my recollection, you didn't offend anyone. Rather, it was the other bloggers who constantly say things like that just to get attention. :-)
Gregg
No.. I think you explained yourself perfectly. But I honestly believe that if you show a genuine interest in wanting to interact with someone, they will respond. Some people only really care about themselves. I don't get that from you AT ALL. Put your energy into those who put their energy back into you. And yeah, we always hated the popular kids in school. But we were kids then, TOO. Right? ::hugs:: Great entry!
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